Have you ever heard the phrase “boys will be boys”? Of course you have. You’re in a fraternity. Get in a scuffle with another fraternity over an intramural game? Boys will be boys. Drink too much over the weekend and leave the Lodge looking like a disaster zone? Boys will be boys. Got your Alpha’s GPA report back to find that you’re in the bottom half of Greek grades? They had a hectic semester. Boys will be boys.
But what are these expectations? Has your Alpha discussed its expectations for members… all of its members…Pledges AND BROTHERS? If your list of expectations looks something like this then chances are a conversation needs to happen.
ALPHA ____ expectations
1) Pays dues (most of the time)
2) Comes to meetings (most of the time)
3) Uhhh…what else can you really ask of a Bro?
And what about recruitment? What does a young man have to do to receive a bid to your Brotherhood? What do your recruitment standards look like? Hopefully you expect more than just:
1) “Coming around”
2) Not creeping anyone out
3) Being a Good Guy, Good Dude, a Chill Dude, or a Fun Guy.
Does any of this sound familiar? I sure hope not.
One of Chi Psi’s sayings is “A Family of Gentlemen in Pursuit of Excellence.” Nothing about our organization admires mediocrity. It’s time to collectively step up our game.
Appearances: “It’s a fraternity house. It’s going to be messy.”
— Ehh. If your Alpha is properly instilling in ALL members the need to pitch-in for the greater good then the building will be kept decent. Cycles of chaos and huge clean up efforts are not sustainable.
Personal Behavior: “He likes to rage. Cut the guy a break.”
— Everyone is entitled to let loose from time to time. Nobody is entitled to damage property, end up in the hospital, get in fights or put others at risk. We’re a Fraternity, not a halfway house.
Grades: “But this is a really hard school.” Or “But he’s in a really tough major.”
— People are proportionally smart relative to the university they attend. If your Alpha or its members rank in the bottom half of peers then it’s time to make a change.
Finances: “The economy is tough. It’s not Brotherly to make him pay if he can’t.”
— It’s also not Brotherly to slack on your commitments. Look into campus jobs, payment plans or smaller bar tabs. Otherwise, call a spade a spade.
It’s time that we raise our expectations of our young Chi Psis. Otherwise, we’re only doing ourselves and our organization a disservice.