“Son, it is nice to be important, but it’s important to be nice.”
From time to time I have to stop and remind myself of these words as the drone of everyday life tends to make me somewhat insensitive to the importance of our day-to-day interactions with one another.
Recently a speech came across my desk. It was one by Brother Henry Bartels, which he had given at an Eagle Scout ceremony. The speech talked about how there were two types of people in the world: Givers and Takers
Brother Bartels challenged his audience to be “Net Givers,” to change the world they live in and become difference makers.
To me, a true Chi Psi is a “Giver”. A true gentleman concerns himself with the well-being of others before that of himself. He consistently subordinates his own selfish desires for the higher demand of others. He gives of himself as freely as he would receive aid and affection.
“The Ideal Chi Psi is a gentleman who, unselfish, thoughtful, and sympathetic, goes through life ever forgetting self in never-ending service to his fellow man. At college he is the man who slaves for his Alma Mater and his Alpha. He is the man who gives his best efforts to his studies and his best spirits to his brothers. He does not degrade himself with coarse associations, yet he appreciates the trials and temptations of campus life and does not scorn those who show less will power than himself.” -Roger Hawthorne H ’28
This fully encompasses what it means to be a Chi Psi, in one word “selflessness,” complete and total selflessness. It is the possession of a burning desire to see others smile and prosper. If I were to have one wish, I would only hope that I would have the conviction to wish that those whom I love the most are just a little bit stronger, a little bit happier, just a little more sensitive to the finer things in life because they knew me.
This is what it means to be a Chi Psi. This is what it means to be a “Net Giver”. To make the world a better place because you are in it. You don’t have to give a million dollars to a charity organization. You don’t have to spend a year giving of your time and services in a third world country.
You can make a difference and be a “Net Giver” by simply bringing a smile to the people around you.
I challenge you all to be selfless and give one smile a day. You might be surprised how giving a smile might change your life and the lives of those around you.
“Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” -Mother Teresa-